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Faye wrote: On March 17th, I sent out an email wishing everyone a Happy St. Patrick’s Day. Along with wearing green and eating ham and cabbage, I also mentioned that the day always reminds me that my grandmother’s funeral was also on St. Patrick’s Day.
Maureen responded March 17th: With all the good you do for everyone, I’m sure your grandmother is very proud of you, and she looks down at you each and every day as she holds you in her heart and her heart is in yours.
Faye responded March 19th: Thank you so much for your kind words. Sorry for my slow response to you. Your email back to me really made me think a lot. I had two grandmothers. My mother’s mother was warm and loving, and I saw her several times every week of my life. She was my favorite person in the world growing up.
My dad’s mother was the grandmother who was buried on St. Patrick’s Day. She lived close by, but she was always very distant emotionally. She never made me feel special growing up. Believe it or not, she was a professional card player. I don’t mean the big time. I mean here locally in Virginia Beach/Norfolk where I grew up. She played cards two or three times a week to support herself. She and my grandfather were separated for all of my dad’s life but never divorced. They took an annual trip to Vegas together each year to gamble. He was a professional; and I’m sure illegal, bookie. An odd relationship but that was my dad’s mom and dad.
She passed away a long time ago. Your email made me think about what you said about her being proud of me. I think about my mom’s mom being in heaven often, but I’ve never given “Lil” much thought. You know what? I realized what you said is true. In heaven, she is everything she wasn’t able to be when she was alive. I realized she did the best she could at the time. She was always kind to me. Giving this some thought has warmed my heart and changed the way I have viewed her most of my life. I never had bad feeling towards her, just kind of empty when I would think of her.
Your email was a gift to me. Something as simple as you taking your time to respond has changed an important part of my life story. I will hold her in my heart now forever.
I hope you have a great day. Please know how much I appreciated hearing from you.
Faye: I hope you can see how, by Maureen just taking a few minutes of her time has changed my whole perception of my relationship with my grandmother. Now in my memory, “Lil” is able to be everything I needed as a child and as an adult. Maureen reached out and made a profound difference to another person. Can we each try and make a difference to someone else today?